8 Conflict Resolution Skills for Your Romantic Relationships

Don’t avoid the fact that there is an alligator in the room!

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Try to find the root cause of conflict

Sit with yourself first and learn about your thoughts and feelings. Be clear so that when you sit together to resolve conflict you don’t have to beat around the bush and bring up ghosts from the past.

Choose your battles wisely

Attack the problem, not the person. It is not healthy to blame everything on your partner. Acknowledge your mistakes and apologize where you realize you went wrong.

Create an environment for healthy and open communication

Create an environment so that both parties can open up and talk freely without hesitation. Be clear and assertive but without being aggressive.

Agree to disagree

When you are in a relationship it feels good to look agreeable all the time. But in a healthy relationship, this formula will not work. You have to be true to yourself and your partner. Being true may look like — “I know you have a conflicting view regarding my startup idea, this but this is important for me”.

Know that conflict resolution can't be done in haste

There is no fixed timeline for conflict resolution in an informal setting. It may take some time for both of you to open up.

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Take breaks if needed

If you find that the anger and resentment are building up beyond a point- don’t feel hesitant to excuse yourself for time being. You will need some downtime and that is okay.

Be prepared to listen with patience

It’s vital to understand your partner’s perspective. Sometimes we are so caught up in our head that we fail to listen to what the other person is trying to tell us.

Check your words

Refrain from speaking hurtful words on purpose. Don’t take advantage of someone else’s vulnerabilities.



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