Key Ways to Manage Your Anger and Rage
Your anger isn’t a problem, the way you react is!
Feeling angry is normal. We all feel angry for various reasons at various times.
Having angry feelings isn’t bad but not knowing what to do with it can be a problem.
When anger becomes a problem?
When you feel that you are getting angry very frequently, you feel that all the feelings are stuffed inside and you will burst like a violent volcano anytime, you feel that your threshold of keeping your sanity is decreasing, it leads you to hurt someone physically or emotionally, it leads to self-abuse, displaying anger has become your default reaction to any situation.
Many people make anger their prime tool to maintain dominance and control. Movies and television shows have promoted this toxic notion of “angry young man”. This has led men to take pride in their blatant display of anger. Young children are also at risk because violent video games and movies manipulate the emotions of an audience on many different conscience and sub-conscience levels.
How anger can affect you
Your anger can have adverse consequences in every little and major area of your life.
Constant uncontrolled anger and rage can cause problems in relationships, in the workplace, on the road, or anywhere you go! When you get angry people around you may feel scared and threatened. After a while, people might start avoiding you altogether to protect themselves from your rage.
Anger can make you sick. If your frequency of getting angry is very high and you are not doing anything to keep it in check it can affect your body. It’s no secret that uncontrolled anger can cause short-term and long-term health problems which include- headache, insomnia, increased anxiety, high blood pressure and digestion problems!
Steps that can help you to manage anger and rage
Try to identify situations and things that make you angry.
Ask yourself — is this a justified response?
Ask yourself can I express myself in a different way?
Put yourself in another person’s shoes.
Turn your focus on the breath.
Maintain distance from your triggers.
If you find your habits fueling your anger(for example — consuming alcohol), stop them.
Keep a check on your progress.
Seek help from a therapist.
When you find yourself resorting to anger when stuck in a situation you can always ask yourself — Does my angry response to this situation solve the problem? I think you already know the answer!
Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. -Aristotle
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