Why Are You A Magnet of Toxic Relationships?

Repeated relationship conflicts are a glaring sign that something is not right. Learn why you are stuck in unhealthy patterns and how to break free from them.

4 min readMay 13, 2024

Diya is a 25-year-old woman working as a Marketing head in a reputed firm. She is confident, driven, and compassionate.

However, in relationships, she often feels desperately confused and lost.

Diya has a history of being in toxic relationships. In hindsight, they have shaped her into the woman she is today but not without ruining her emotional and mental health for the longest time.

She believes she has lost many precious years of her life chasing men who only left her feeling more broken and empty. She searches for love but maybe she searches in all the wrong places.

Many men and women can relate to Diya’s story. We are often blindsided by love and make choices that ultimately become the biggest mistakes of our lives.

Then we fiddle over questions such as, “Why do I only attract toxic relationships? Is it me? Am I the problem?

Well, understanding why you are more prone to toxic relationships can help you break the cycle and invite fulfilling relationships in your life.

You Could Have Developed an Insecure Attachment Style

According to the madly popular Attachment Theory, the way you relate to your primary caregivers during your childhood years has a major impact on the quality of your adult relationships.

Diya had a troubled relationship with her father. Although he provided materialistic needs, he mostly remained emotionally absent. She has a hard time recalling moments when her father was affectionate toward her.

Moreover, her parents also had a conflicted marriage. She was brought up in a household where an unhealthy marriage was considered a norm. Her emotional needs were unmet and from a very young age, she became independent and avoided seeking emotional support from others.

Fast-forward to her adult relationships, she finds it difficult to trust her partners. She believes that just like her father even they will fail to satisfy her emotional needs, and hence chooses to remain guarded and emotionally distant.

If you have developed an insecure attachment style then there are high chances that you also have an intense fear of abandonment and rejection but at the same time an increasing dependency on your partner.

You fear losing them but at the same time, their presence could also suffocate you.

Such relationship patterns gradually become unhealthy and leave you feeling dissatisfied and ‘stuck’.

It is important to break free from your childhood experiences and redefine the way you relate to others. And therapy can give you the support and guidance you need to do that.

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To become secure in your relationships, it is important to understand who you are and what you need from your relationships. Therapy will help you build your self-confidence, break your toxic patterns, and be emotionally prepared to let go of toxic relationships.

You have unresolved past karma

Let’s understand why you repeatedly find yourself in toxic relationships from a spiritual point of view.

Toxic relationships are often karmic relationships that we need to experience to move forward in our soul journey. There are certain lessons that we need to learn. When we refuse to accept these lessons, they keep repeating until we finally understand them.

These karmic relationships are often carried with us for many lifetimes. For instance, Ajay shared a strained relationship with his mother.

When he did past life regression therapy, he saw that in one of his past lives, his mother was his uncle.

Ajay’s uncle had tried to kill him.

Now, that karmic tie was carried in his present life.

When Ajay cleared the stuck past karma with the guidance of his past life regression therapist, he was able to heal the relationship with his mother.

Karmic relationships are difficult, painful, and chaotic. Hence, you may repeatedly attract toxic relationships because there is past karma that you need to resolve.

Moreover, twin-flame relationships could also be disguised as toxic relationships. Twin flames are two souls that share a high resemblance with each other. They are basically two mirrors who show each other a reality that they have ignored for too long.

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Binita and Dan were twin flames. Initially, they shared a toxic relationship.

It was difficult to even breathe in that relationship. It forced them to look at their flaws, mistakes, and imperfections and do the inner work.

Binita and Dan had to dissolve their egos to truly connect.

At times, toxic relationships often reveal our unhealthy behaviors, thoughts, and actions. Doing the deep work could be the only way out of toxic relationships.

You seek familiar situations

Lastly, you repeatedly attract toxic relationships because they feel familiar.

Our brains are wired to seek familiarity.

For Disha, being with an emotionally unavailable man was a familiar situation. Her father seldom showed affection and care. She was used to that form of treatment and hence attracted men who treated her in the same way.

Breaking the familiar patterns can give rise to fears and anxiety because you would be stepping into the unknown. It requires new perspectives, more resources, and emotional resilience.

However, stepping out of what you have known for many years and stepping into the unknown can be the challenge you need to break away from the cycle of toxic relationships.

If you are finding it confusing and difficult to move away from toxic relationships then you can always seek support and guidance from an expert therapist.

Therapy offers a space where you can become more self-aware and bring in new perspectives. This can help you to break the patterns and attract better and healthier love




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